Happy New Year 2014!

5 Jan

goodbye-2013The new year has inspired me to take back to writing. A few months back I learned I couldn’t have my GorgeousSkin4u site without going through company lawyers for my skincare business, so I stopped writing there. Not writing is definitely NOT what I wanted! So I’ve decided that I should go back to my roots and just be ME out there in the interwebs with my personal blog, just me.

To start with, let’s just say I’m not feeling 2013. It wasn’t a very good year for me and I’m not sure how to make my life better going forward. When people ask me what I’m doing, I share all the things I’m doing and it sounds insane. (2 businesses, part-time work, and more!) So I need more focus and less scatter, plus I need more honesty and more people to lean on. So if that’s you, please chime in.

So, what are your tips for finding your way in life after feeling so lost? Here are some reasons for feeling lost that you may identify with… But what shifts should we make to get out of the floating drift? I like some of the authors suggestions – do you have others?



15 Responses to “Happy New Year 2014!”

  1. asplenia January 6, 2014 at 12:45 pm #

    I like this guy’s advice for tending to four different aspects of yourself every day (physical, emotional, mental, etc.) and that alone leads to changes: http://www.jamesaltucher.com/2011/02/how-to-be-the-luckiest-guy-on-the-planet-in-4-easy-steps/

    Great article from Forbes, I just tagged it to read later. Thanks!

    • marykoster January 6, 2014 at 1:52 pm #

      That’s too funny. I actually have his book sitting here and saw him speak in DC at one of the Cadre events I photographed. I started reading it but didn’t get through it. Love his pointers and follow him on facebook. He’s cooky and fun to listen to. Let me know if you want to borrow his book when I’m done! 🙂

  2. asplenia January 6, 2014 at 12:46 pm #

    Oh and… welcome back! I’m glad you’re blogging again. 🙂

  3. Michelle W January 8, 2014 at 3:41 pm #

    Hello, Glad you are back to writing. I am hoping for a much better 2014 as well! I’d be very willing to be one of the people you can lean on while we make our 2014 awesome!

    • marykoster January 8, 2014 at 4:15 pm #

      Thanks, Michelle! I’ll be happy to share and help one another for a stellar 2014. Thanks for offering!

  4. Joanne McAlpine January 8, 2014 at 4:10 pm #

    I hear ya, I’m just a scatter brain in general. I spent a lot of time the last two weeks talking with DH about what I’m doing, where I want to be and how to get there and yet I still have fears of being absent minded and my focus all over the place too. The only thing I can say is that overall, I’m happy and I’d like to think that counts. I want things and I’m going to try for them but overall I’m happy. I hope you can get there too.

    Btw, I love that your blog will be more you. It makes it more personable and relatable 🙂 Looking forward to your blog posting in 2014

    • marykoster January 8, 2014 at 4:16 pm #

      We sound very similar, Joanne! I’m not sure if I’m happy, I’ve had so little time in my life where I have felt happy – I’m not sure if I’d recognize it. Sad, isn’t it? I definitely agree with this being more personal being about me, vs. just a business. The question is HOW much to share. 😉 I have spent a lot of my life being so private and hidden, not sure what levels are OK for public consumption but I want to help others… so have to figure out that line…

  5. Joanne McAlpine January 8, 2014 at 4:14 pm #

    FYI: a friend of mine turned me on to this site: http://leoniedawson.com/shop/kits/amazing-year-workbook-calendar-2014/

    If you can get past her eccentric nature (which is sweet but does sometimes make me shake my head) the books really seemed to help me recognize where I want to be and how to get there.

  6. Lori Krause January 8, 2014 at 4:30 pm #

    My coach certainly knows about me and scatter! We’re always working on focusing on one thing at a time, and sometimes that happens, and sometimes it doesn’t. I don’t know if you’ve read Getting Things Done by David Allen (http://www.amazon.com/Getting-Things-Done-Stress-Free-Productivity/dp/0142000280) but when I remember to use the systems in the book, they do help.

    • marykoster January 8, 2014 at 4:46 pm #

      Ha! I hear you. I haven’t read it, but I’ll put it on my list on amazon. I have a stack of no less than 20 books by great leaders that I’ve made a weekly vow to start on… i’ll add that in when I can! Thanks, Lori!

  7. Juli Monroe January 8, 2014 at 4:56 pm #

    I hear you on having many things in play at one time. I’m in a similar situation (at least 4 different things I’m doing). Brutal time management skills keeps me functional, although I do have to make time to evaluate priorities and really look at what I’m doing and why I’m doing them. That does help. I need to know if something stops making sense and give myself permission to stop as soon as I recognize that.

    • marykoster January 8, 2014 at 4:59 pm #

      Agreed about giving yourself permission to stop things that are not serving you. It’s a hard thing to do, especially when it comes to relationships that are not serving you or events/meetings! Still making baby steps on all that every day… widdling away things that are not working for me, trying to replace with behaviors that are! good luck this year on more progress, Juli. I know it’s tough. I need to become the master of time management!

      • Juli Monroe January 8, 2014 at 5:33 pm #

        I meant to second Loris’ recommendation of Getting Things Done. Truly a great book, and I recommend it and coach many of my clients through it. Also look at Taming Your Gremlin (http://www.amazon.com/Taming-Your-Gremlin-Surprisingly-Getting/dp/0060520221) Sometimes lack of focus is actually our gremlin speaking to us in unexpected ways. It’s another book many of my clients have said spoke to them when they read it.

        Never hesitate to contact me for book recommendations. I’ve got lots to keep your reading list full!

  8. Virginia Colin January 8, 2014 at 10:51 pm #

    Focusing on writing in your own true voice sounds good.
    Feeling scattered seems hard to avoid in today’s world. One of my friends often reminds me not to let the things that seem urgent get in the way of doing the things that are important. I like to start each day with a decision about the question: What is the single most important thing for me to do today?

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